the anal sex for gay men

          The basic sex positions for anal intercourse are simple enough. Possibly the most common position is to have one partner kneeling behind the other.

           
          To get into this position for sex, you may well find it useful to play with your partner's anus to relax him and open him up. In the early stages of sex, you can stimulate his anus with your fingers or mouth and gently encourage him to relax and get used to the feeling of being penetrated.

          An enjoyable variation on sex in this position is to have the the receiving partner lying flat on the bed on his stomach, perhaps with his hips raised a little on a pillow if that makes penetration easier. Though this can be a relaxing position, the bottom guy can't move as freely, and the guy on top can't thrust as deeply.

          In these anal sex positions, passion and power can really take a hold. It's certainly a very exciting position for the man who's thrusting, and he can often get carried away in his excitement! And the excitement isn't limited to the man on top, for the bottom man - that is to say, the man taking his partner's penis - can thrust his hips back and forth or move them in a circular movement: he certainly doesn't have to be passive in this sex position - or indeed in any other. Generally, though, most of the pelvic movement will come from the man who's penetrating his partner - and this may actually be more satisfying for both men. The active partner - the top - enjoys the power and sensation of his thrusts, while the passive partner - the bottom - gets the pleasure of receiving a penis into his body and the erotic sensations which go with this (like the stimulation of his prostate).

Even though all anal sex positions will provide some stimulation to the prostate, you won't be surprised to hear that some are better than others for this - and to some extent this depends on the size and shape of the top's penis. What that means in practice is that you'll probably need to experiment to find the position which gives you the greatest pleasure during anal sex.

          For example, a guy with an upwards curving erection like this:

may give his partner more pleasure if he fucks him in this sex position:

           And a guy with a downward curving erection like this:

 may give his partner more pleasure if he fucks him in this sex position:

          It's all about the getting the curve of his erection oriented so that his thrusts press on his partner's prostate.

          It's also true that some anal sex positions are more tiring than others, so you're going to find that you can keep going in some of them for longer than you can in others. Still, changing position during sex can be part of the fun.